O Moments feature the life pondering questions and articles written the the O Magazine, of the Iconic Oprah Winfrey. I mean who does love Oprah. Her magazine challenges me, provides helpful insights and tips, and is a good weekend read with a glass of wine.
February’s issue of the magazine posed the following question:
What have you been surprised to learn about yourself?
It’s okay to be single in your 30’s!
No really… it’s okay!! In my 20’s, I would have called you crazy and laughed in your face. Society has made it commonplace for us to be in a relationship, to never be alone, or lonely. Stepping out of a one relationship, looking for another before we have had time to breathe. Not learning from our mistakes instead repeating them. Over and over, time and time again.
For the last 8 months, I have been practicing self-love. Loving myself more each day. Its been tough, having its ups and downs. One thing I have learned through this process is to love myself, all of me. Flaws and all!! Also, that its okay. Okay to be alone. Alone when society says that settling down, getting married, and having kids in your late 20’s and 30’s is what we are supposed to do. I mean, am I lying? No.
Being single in your 30’s is okay! It gives you the time to live your best life after your 20’s. Where you spent time getting to know who you are, figuring out that life is what make it, and that its okay if you do not have all the answers. At 33, I’m on the quest to living my best life. Coming to the realization that I am okay with being single. I do not need the constant conversation and validation of the opposite sex. (Well at least every now and again). And I can spend time doing the things I love – like travel, blog, try new things, and meet interesting new people.