Just to make it known- I’ve been single for the last 7 years. In the past, I would have told you that this was the source of my unhappiness and that I would be single for the rest of my life. I looked to every guy that I met as potential, becoming upset and disappointed when they were not. Looking at myself, wondering what did I do wrong. What was wrong with me? Slowly knocking my self-esteem down, notch by notch. With each failed relationship or friendship, shattering my self-confidence. Only for me to build it up to have it knocked down…again. I often found myself overlooking their actions even though I knew they were not good for me. So much for standards, right?!
Today I choose life. Every morning when I wake up, I can choose joy, happiness, negativity, pain…. To feel the freedom that comes from continuing to make mistakes and choices – today I choose to feel life, not to deny my humanity, but to embrace it. – Kevyn Aucoin
After another personal scare, I started to re-evaluate things. No more are the days of spending hours surfing social media (Bumble, Tinder, Tagged, OkCupid, Plenty of Fish, etc.) looking for a potential mate. Desperate, right?! At that time…I was. I decided to let faith be my guide and let be what will be. I believe that is the correct saying. Throwing it all to faith. Remaining single until I know when the time is right. Ever since that decision, I feel happier. I don’t stress about it or worry about it. No longer feeling hopeless.
I want to tell women that you need to love yourself and make yourself a priority. It’s only when you are happy yourself, can you make everyone else around you happy. I am still a dreamer and still believe in fairy tales, but there is only so much that one should give another person. You need to keep something for yourself. – Bipasha Basu
Instead I embrace it, focusing on what is important…ME! Learning to love what matters most…ME! Accepting myself and all my flaws. Becoming very selfish. I mean, who will love me unless I love myself. After all isn’t that what we all want, someone who will love us, like we love ourselves. Even if another 7 years goes by, I’ll be prepared. Finally prepared to give someone the love that I give myself. How do you know when enough is enough?